Friday, May 1, 2009

Manners: A Path between teo Extremes

Manners have boundaries ; these boundaries can be imagined as the upper and lower limits of what we know to be acceptable behavior . If the upper limit has been exceeded , then hostility will result . Likewise , if the lower limit is not attained , then weakness and contempt result . Manners and character are intimately related , they are multifaceted , and each aspect has its upper and lower limits .

Limits for Anger : The middle road is acclaimed courage . That is , having the strength to stand up and denounce evil and weakness . Exceeding the upper limit results in aggression and injustice to others and falling below the lower limit results in cowardice and fear of others .

Limits for Caution : The desired path is to achieve satisfaction in life . Falling below the lower limit results in contempt , humiliation , and loss of respect for oneself and one's family . Exceeding the upper limit results in greed and the desire for forbidden things .

Limits for Envy : The proper balance is to seek contentment with oneself and appreciating the blessings Allah has given your life . Exceeding the upper limit leads to transgression and injustice , desiring to remove the blessings from the envied person , even to the extent of causing injury ; where failing to reach the lower limit means one is weak willed with a lack of self respect .

Limits for Desire : Ideally , this is resting the heart and mind from the efforts of worship and utilizing permissible desires to direct one towards obedience to Allah . Exceeding the upper limit results in lewdness and gluttony , making the person in likeness to an animal – having little or no control of its desires ; whereas falling below the lower limit causes weakness , impotence and self-contempt .

Limits for Rest : The model for our rest should be that of moderation and preparation for worship and conducting our daily lives . Exceeding the upper limit results in negligence , laziness and wastefulness and causes opportunities to be lost ; not reaching the lower limit causes stress , harmful to the health and it causes a strain on the family .

Limits for Generosity : Again , the ideal is always moderation . Passing the upper limit results in squandering and wastefulness ; whereas failing to reach the lower limit results in miserliness and covetousness .

Limits for Jealousy : Going beyond the upper limit leads to doubt , bad thoughts and false accusation of the innocent ; whereas failing to reach the lower limit indicates a lack of self-esteem .

Limits for Humility : Surpassing the upper limit causes contempt and disgrace ; whereas falling below the lower limit results in arrogance and ostentation .

Limits of Honor : Exceeding the upper limit leads to arrogance and contemptible manners and falling below the lower limit results in disgrace and contempt .

Limits of Courage : Going beyond upper limit causes recklessness , while not reaching the lower limit signifies cowardice and weakness .

The governing factor is justice , moderation , or the middle way . When a person's character deviates from this path in either direction it causes their character and strength to decrease by the same degree as the deviation . It is the same for all their actions and activities such as : sleeping , waking , eating , drinking , exercising , seeking solitude , socializing , and so on . Those who take the middle of the extremes will therefore be just , and if they should incline to either direction , their judgment would be diminished , and the fruit they bear would be decreased .

Among the best and most beneficent areas of knowledge is knowledge of the limits of our character , especially those rules governing the acts of exhorting people to do good deeds and advising against doing wrong and the rules governing good character in general . The most knowledgeable people are those who understand the limits as such ; and the most just are those who live within the boundaries of character , action and religious obedience – both in faith and in action .

Taken From: Al-Jumuah Magazine







Monday, March 23, 2009

The ABC's Of Life



A-avoid negative people , things , and habits .

B-believe in Allah and yourself .

C-consider things from every angle .

D-don't give up and don't give in .

E-enjoy yourself today , yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn't here .

F-family and friend's are treasures , enjoy their riches .

G-give more than planned to give .

H-hang on to your dreams .

I-ignore those who try to discourage you .

J-just do it .

K-keep on trying no matter how hard it is .

L-love Allah and the Prophet (SAWS) first and foremost .

M-make things happen .

N-never lie , cheat , or steal . always strike a fair deal .

O-open your eyes and see things as they really are .

P-practice makes perfect .

Q-quitters never win , and winners never quit .

R-read , study and learn about everything .

S-stop procrastinating .

T-trust Allah and yourself and never give up .

U-understand yourself and others .

V-visualize your dreams .

W-want to enjoy life .

X-x-ccelarate your efforts .

Y-you are unique in all the world and no one can replace you .

Z-zero is on your target and go for it !!!!!


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Sunday, March 15, 2009

Award Again!

Yay Alhamdulillah me got another award from Umm Travis. Thanks a lot sis. And it goes well with my blog template :)







And I pass this on to:

1) Hajar
2)
Hijabee
3)
AMW
4) Nida
5)
Malizea
6) Chasing Jannah
7) Muslim Girl




Saturday, March 7, 2009

Blog Award!





Ok me got another blog award from Hajar. Jazak Allah Khairan. And I pass this on to all those whose blogs I follow. Congrtas to the Winners. And pls pass it on to others too.



Random things about myself


Tagged by Hajar.

1. Six names you go by:
1. Ms. Unique
2. Mana
3. Mona
4. Shaz
5. Shazi
6. Shazu

2. Three things you are wearing right now:
1. Dress
2. Rubber band
3. -------

3. Two things you want very badly at the moment:
1. My Pal
2. "If I should speak"

4. Three people who will do this:
1. Umm Travis
2. Hijabee
3. AMW


5. Two things you did last night:
1. Finished reading a book
2. Sleeping


6. Two things you did today:
1. Blogging
2. Eating

7. Two Things you ate today:
1. Egg
2. Indomie


8. Two people you last talked to on the phone:
1. My friend
2. My Uncle

9. Two things you are going to do tomorrow Insha Allah:
1. Blogging
2. Reading sister blogs


10. Favourite beverage:
1. Lemonade
2. 7 up


Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Quiz Box test

I took this test at www.quizbox.com. The name of the quiz was "The Clothes You Wear" and Subhan Allah! the result came out like as though I'd written my personality on a sheet of paper. Pls try the quiz to check out yours too.


What others see from your style

Although to the untrained eye you may seem like a plain dresser who avoids trends, you actually wear carefully designed accessories and clothes that emphasize your uniqueness. You value your freedom and have an artistic mind. You are neither aggressive nor timid, but you believe in yourself.

What your nightclothes reveal

You are a sensuous person who can also get bored easily. You're probably a little lazy and like to have your own way.

What others see from your ties

You are strong-minded and determined. Even though you may appear to be gentle, you are actually a stubborn person who loves to be challenged.

What others see from your belts

You are a lonely and demanding person. You are hardworking as well as intelligent, and can be passionate when in love.

What others see from your shoes

You are adventurous. You have high self-esteem and are able to keep your promises. You like to take chances and are always looking for new opportunities to make your life more exciting.

What others see from your earrings

You are probably a free spirit at heart with artistic talent. You are absolutely unique and are always coming up with lots of great ideas. Being happy is your most important goal.

The last analysis

You are probably a clever and adventurous person. You love to learn new things, and enjoy socializing with friends. Although you enjoy your freedom, you cherish peacefulness and like to spend time alone with your thoughts.